“‘Where I come from, we holler at women. Sorry if that offends you, but you shouldn’t feel that way. Because, you know, women were put on this earth to satisfy a man, so if she feels offended, she shouldn’t have ever been born.’ He goes on, ‘You don’t believe in the Bible? That’s why Eve was born.’ In addition to the awful biblical justification, he goes on to utilize every sexist bro’s favorite defense of their right to make gross comments with impunity: ‘But, see, you’ve got the freedom of speech. That’s why you’ve got the freedom of speech, to holler if you wanna holler.’ In other words: STOP CHASTISING ME FOR HARASSING YOU ON THE STREET, THOUGHT POLICE!!!!”
Points for candor, I guess.
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it has something to do with preserving life’s mystery; with leaving certain things undescribed, unspecified, and unknown; with savoring certain emotions, such as curiosity, surprise, desire, and anticipation. It depends on an intensified sense of life’s preciousness and fragility, and on a Heisenberg-like notion that, when it comes to our most abstract and spiritual intuitions, looking too closely changes what we feel. It has to do, in other words, with a kind of inner privacy, by means of which you shield yourself not just from others’ prying eyes, but from your own. Call it an artist’s sense of privacy.
A lovely, meditative piece by Joshua Rothman on Woolf, solitude, and dignity. A volume could be written just on “the realization that men, but not women, have long been granted a right to solitude.”
One from the Krav Maga archives…
The NRA began lobbying Congress in the 1990s to limit the CDC’s funding after the agency gave financial backing to an independent study that found that keeping a gun in the home was strongly associated with an increased risk of homicide.
According to the former director of the CDC’s National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, “The scientific community has been terrorized by the NRA.” When will we learn that people who fear knowledge are not to be trusted?
The Supreme Court has just issued its ruling in the Hobby Lobby contraception case, holding that “closely held corporations” can choose not to provide contraception coverage if they have sincere religious objections to doing so. I’m still processing this disheartening decision, but in the meantime a few reminders about this issues raised in this case:
1. Contraception is health care. Pregnancy is a serious health care condition under ideal circumstances, and a potentially lethal one under other circumstances. Moreover, more than a million women use contraception for medical purposes completely unrelated to pregnancy - to treat endometriosis, ovarian cysts, acne, and other conditions.
2. Hobby Lobby’s claim that some forms of birth control - namely Plan B, Ella, and IUDs - covered by the mandate are abortifacients is completely false.
3. Hobby Lobby’s supposedly sincere religious objection to these forms of birth control is quite recent: its health insurance plan covered Plan B and Ella until 2012.
4. At the time of Hobby Lobby’s newfound religious objection to contraception coverage, the company’s retirement plan had invested more than $73 million in contraception manufacturers.
5. Hobby Lobby has raised no religious objection to covering erectile-dysfunction medication, penis pumps, or in fact any other form of health care used exclusively by men.
Our latest Krav Maga demo video - knife street attack.
In this HuffPost Live discussion, I talk with Amanda Marcotte and host Ricky Camilleri about why self-defense is not the answer to rape.
As a Krav Maga instructor who wishes our society truly encouraged women to exert control over their bodies, I hope people will consider the multitude of ways that it does exactly the opposite. Most sexual assaults are perpetrated by someone the victims knows and trusts, not strangers hiding in bushes. This fact - that husbands, boyfriends, colleagues, and peers are the primary threats to women’s safety - means that the problem of sexual assault cannot be mitigated the same way robberies or carjackings can. Sexual assault is primarily a matter of prejudice and contempt, similar to racist or homophobic violence. That makes it a problem that must be addressed by combating underlying social attitudes of sexual entitlement and sexism.
Men and boys must be taught that they have no right to anyone’s body; women and girls must be taught that no one has the right to their bodies. This message must be enforced by granting women’s bodily autonomy the same respect afforded to men’s in all aspects of life - whether the choices involve reproductive rights, romantic relationships, or personal appearance and movement. Genuine commitment to gender equality will do more to prevent sexual assault than decades of self-defense classes (which, it is worth pointing out, are only available to those with the time and money to spend on them).
It would be wonderful if every woman - everyone - had the opportunity to learn self-defense (especially Krav Maga!), but even if this were possible, it would do very little to address the problem of sexual assault. Sexual assault is a preventable crime for which we all have collective responsibility: we have an obligation to defend all women’s rights to be treated as human beings, all the time.
I talk with David Marin (host of the radio show Mister Mom) about the UCSB shooter and the exploitative and dangerous propaganda of the pickup artist (PUA) industry.
Elliot Rodger’s killing spree near the University of California, Santa Barbara was a particularly extreme case of misogynistic violence, but the hatred in his 140-page manifesto is too commonly experienced by women everywhere, University of Miami law professor Mary Anne Franks told HuffPost Live.